In this episode of Living The Retirement Lifestyle Podcast we introduce you to one of our great friends and mentors JT DeBolt and ask him to share his wisdom around facing the fear of change and transitioning from something you loved and has ended and the transition into something new
JT is a top executive coach and worked with people like Tony Robbins and Chet Holmes as well as thousands of people including us.
Listen in as he shares his story and the lessons from becoming a decorated aviator earning a six figure income and a young family to facing bankruptcy following the collapse of the real estate marketing in the recession of 2008
Through sharing his story and how he transitioned into entrepreneurship you’ll discover that facing the fear of change can bring about a whole new perspective on life and actually you might find with the right attitude towards change a whole new world will open up just as it did for JT and for us.
As of now, there’s no way to know if there’s another recession around the corner. You may be able to kind of predict it. But when you’re making a decision about your transition in life, your career transition, you’re thinking what might happen, but there’s really no way to know. So you can’t grasp the past because it’s gone. You can’t grasp the future because it hasn’t happened. Really the only thing you can go off of is what’s in front of you now.
The thing I would encourage people to do is you have to make decisions and choices, two different things based on what you have internally. Skills, experience, wisdom that have come from your past, the vision, the hopes, the dreams, the plans that help you build the future. That’s what you have right now. And if you focus on those things and you build your future around the things you’ve learned from the past, the skills you’ve developed, then you have a really great shot at making whatever you want to have happen in the future come at you as opposed to making a decision based on what you think you should do…It’s about what you’re going to do now based on who you are as a person, what you’ve developed skill-wise and wisdom-wise.
On the topic of the current pandemic
“We can’t put Pandora, you know, Pandora’s box is open. We can’t close it, we’re here, this is what we got”
We can’t close it, we’re here, this is what we got. “I wish that I didn’t have this.” “I wish this didn’t happen.” And that’s a very reasonable and natural thing. And I think it happens to every single person at some point, whether you’ve hit threshold and you’re fed up and you’re burnt out, or maybe it’s the very first part and it’s that shock and awe of, “Oh my gosh, this is happening.”
HOW TO FACE THE FEAR OF CHANGE – THE WISH, WANT, WILL FORMULA
Well, the next question is, “Okay, so you may wish for this, but what do you want to have happen?” It takes the focus off of the shock and awe or the trauma or whatever it is. You may not love what you want, but what do you want? And I think so often we don’t give ourselves that grace, we don’t give ourselves that headspace, that opportunity to actually go, “Well, what do I really want?” “Well, I want for this virus to go away.” Okay, that’s awesome.
Now, let me ask you a question, inside your realm of control, what you can control, what do you want? That’s different. Now we have some power. We’ve taken the power back. Before when we say, “I wish.” We give our power away. And that’s where the fear comes in, because we’re like, we feel powerless. “There’s nothing I could do about this! This is so frustrating, I feel overwhelmed.” Well, guess what? When you say, “Well, what is it you want?” Now we bring it back into what we can control. Okay, but what can you control? What do you want for yourself? Now we take a deep breath and we think like a leader. And we start talking about what we can control inside our lives. Once you get control of what you really want, you start focusing on it, then you can then effectively answer the next question, and that is, “What will you do about this? “What will you now do?” “What will you take action on?“ That, my friends, is one of the most powerful places you can be, because the stress has a tendency to evaporate. The fear has no place. There’s actually no space in that moment when you’re taking the action and you’re in that place of saying, “This is what I will do.” You are in the driver’s seat. Now you are moving forwards and out of the fear-based thinking.
We don’t know about you but this was a powerful conversation!
Last but by no means least as we talked about at the end of our chat with JT we asked about his book Flight Plan To Success which we have in our library
Discover how to identify and connect with your true purpose in life
Gain Clarity and focus while staying on track with your goals
Get the structure to take purposeful action and achieve consistent, dynamic results
Finally pursue and realise your biggest dreams with confidence and certainty
Thanks for joining us here today and as JT would say “Fly High Fly Fast Fly Far”